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We understand the allure of a 5-year plan. It gives us a sense of direction and control. We draw the contours of the plan and, we hope, the shape of our future.

It wasn’t a failure of will; it was nervous system dysregulation. I’ve since learned you can’t think your way out of a physiological overflow—you regulate your way out.

Our definition of failure dictates our willingness to risk it, and therefore, our access to the good things that lie beyond.

Navigating a difficult relationship? Instead of tolerating or making demands, you can choose what you expect, what you accept, and how you respond.

I imagined a career made of my bright spots all strung together, like a strand of colorful beads. Then I let myself believe it was possible to do work that truly engages me. 

I’ve come to believe that self-worth is essential to thriving, and that not feeling worthy leads us to settle for lives that are less fulfilling, meaningful, and joyful.

If you are like me and find yourself proving your worth with the incessant urge to “do,” let this be permission to experiment with a different way of living.